Before I started writing this post, I wanted to name it 'Eve Teasing'. However, to my surprise, here is the Wikipedia definition of Eve Teasing -
"Eve teasing is a euphemism used in India, Bangladesh and Pakistan for sexual harassment or molestation of women by men."
What? Its a euphemism only in the sub continent? No way! Moreover, the more important part is to notice the victim here - women.
Being from Delhi, I have been often involved in discussions on how the rape capital of India houses ill mannered males. Worse, much of the lesser harassments every day on the streets of Delhi goes unreported and unopposed. I used the term 'eve teasing' as a casual reference to sexual harassment in its oral form from both sexes.
Until last night.
Walking towards our car parked a few blocks from Adams Morgan, (read my previous experiences here from the summer of '06), the five of us were having a good time at 3 AM on a Friday night. Amongst the gang were four college friends from 3 cities and 2 countries meeting after a long time.
"Haaaaaayyyy!!!"
The shout of a woman from somewhere across the street broke the string of Ma-Behen curse words floating for a long time. As I turned to look around, a big SUV with tinted glasses was crawling parallel to us. Inside it were 4-5 girls in their early twenties - all dressed nicely in party clothes.
"Haaay you guys, I love you all so much. I loooooooooove Indian guys. You guys are ALLLLLL f***ing virgins. I want to de-virginize you tonight. You wanna come with me tonight? I'll eat you like a chocolate...."
In the volleys of 'We love you too baby' cries going back and forth, something struck me for the first time. I had just been a victim of Adam Teasing (Yes, there is a Wiki word for it). It was sickening. I mean honestly, I don't mind dirty talking after being drunk. But more importantly, I have always been on the giving end all my life. The girls left within a minute or so but I knew that I had lost something right then and there - my oft spoken "Jiyo Maal Jiyo R**** Jiyo C*****i" anthem (my demeaning reaction on seeing a 'beautiful' girl - note change in lingo :D ).
I could never imagine how disgusting it could be to be 'eaten' by some stranger. I somewhat knew that the fastest reproducing racial group on this planet could be seen as sexually deprived. To top it all, I was sure that 4 out of the 5 of us were virgins.
5 comments:
and would be more disgusting for a virgin to be 'eaten' by some stranger.
You could have said that you were not interested in any 'pre-owned stuff'.
"Jiyo Maal Jiyo R**** Jiyo C*****i" ...I remember that!!! :D
-som
remember the anthem everyone keeps singing?? Man and woman are same? Why should it come as a shock? may be just because it was done on you or because you were witnessing a woman doing it so openly to men of other races..?? Also I feel the apparent mention of being a virgin was more like an insult so that could have also fueled your anger towards such misdemeanor..well either way, teasing is bad, demeans others..and brings the worst in the one doing it...so long..take care
@fuzzy: Its tough to find new stuff which has not yet been owned ever.
@som: Yes, do you.
@Sush: I probably was not "insulted" when called a virgin - on the contrary I try hard to maintain the status. But yes, I agree that it was a shocker for women to be doing this to men - not because they cannot/should not but because I personally hold them in high esteem (mostly). Acts like these sometimes gives reason to people who claim that women "bring it upon themselves" (eg. Shiv Sena after the Mumbai New Year molestation).
Adam/Eve tasting isn't used, we refer to the person not the act. Americans have a singular word for it, slut.
Alternatively, urban dictionary defines it as: a woman with the morals of a man.
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